Chapter 1 – Dealing With Difficult Situations

“Well, the truth is that God gives us a whole set of problems to deal with, not because He doesn’t like us but because He wants us to develop and mature in His ways”

I am sure everyone can attest to growing up and experiencing some kind of situation which you felt was extremely difficult.

Difficult Questions

                                               

These may be quite easily remembered because there is a tendency within human beings to remember the bad experiences more rapidly than the good. I am equally sure that we may even be able to actually list these, but have we ever considered the purpose for them in our lives? What was our response in the midst of them?

Did we bawl, cry, blame family members, curse, plot revenge, quietly let it pass, or try to understand why God allowed such to happen?

You may have noticed our premise is that you believe that there is a God, but just in case you do not, we will have to leave that for another discussion. You should continue reading though because we would like to hear your views and wish to engage you in a very pertinent conversation.

                     Conversation; Discussions                 

Recently our Senior Elder, Wayne Brown, launched his book “Dealing with Difficult Situations.”  An excerpt from Chapter 1 of this book says, Well, the truth is that God gives us a whole set of problems to deal with, not because He doesn’t like us but because He wants us to develop and mature in His ways.” Of course he explained this quite expertly with examples from the Bible in his book, which we would encourage you to read in order to get a full picture of God’s plan for these difficult situations, and the processes involved in triumphing over them, such as, engaging accurately, and understanding the sovereignty of God. Let’s also continue to whet your appetite for this book by engaging you in an honest and frank discussion with the following questions in mind.

 

Do you believe that God allowed these situations to occur? If so, then why?

 

How did I respond in the midst of them?

 

How have these situations changed me?

 

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  • Diana Griffith

    God is faithful. I can look back and see Him breakthrough for me time and time again. This produces elevated sight knowing that I can completely trust Him in the midst of my difficult situation.

  • Omar Pooran

    God allows difficult situations in our lives to process us, make us stronger and more mature. A key aspect of dealing with difficult situations for me is hearing what God is saying in the midst of the processing. Sometimes, God allows these situations so that we can hear what God is saying; when we are in our comfort zone it is harder to hear Him but in the heat of the furnace our spiritual attenna

  • Jo-ann Parris

    There are scriptures that stayed with me during challenging circumstances and helped me learn to respond correctly. God’s Word says, by His stripes I am healed. Holy Spirit would also remind me that all things work together for the good of those who love the Lord and are called to His purpose. I would ask God “Why me” and I would hear “My grace is sufficient for you to go through this correctly…” I realized I had to begin to see myself as God saw me – Big revelation! Whenever I tried to throw a pity party Holy Spirit would also remind me of when Jesus prayed “…not My will but Your will be done” Therefore, where I would rather close my eyes and wish the difficulty went away, and where I felt overwhelmed by it or became defensive, I find that I now prefer to literally cry out to God for His wisdom to respond as He would if He was in the same position, and I have seen His hand move because of my obedience. These scriptures continue to help keep everything in its proper perspective for me as I walk the path. Even though at times there are little slippages, I press to keep the process authentic and to close the gaps wherever I find them.

    • Avril Fox-Pooran

      Yes, and quite sobering indeed. Three things I see here that are very important: strategy, deliberate action, and tracking. The HS gave you a strategy by reminding you to look at Christ’s example and you implemented that strategy by deliberately changing your behaviour to be in alignment with what God wants. Now, you track your process diligently to ensure that the gaps remain closed. This reminds me of what SE Wayne Brown said in the book concerning David and how he journeyed through his difficult times. He too was strategic, deliberate, and tracked his process but in the midst of it all, he did it with the right heart posture and this is critical! SE Brown underscores this by saying “It then stands to reason that a very significant part of our coming into prophetic fulfillment has to do with how we engage with the challenges of life.”

  • Genelle Salandy Haynes

    I believe God allows situations to occur in my life to make me mature in terms of my response and actions since sometimes I get angry or fearful at times. In the end I see God wants me to rest in Him to do not worry or get angry but to trust in Him and no matter the outcome remain grounded in Him and to know that He is Sovereign in my life.

    • Keston

      I have to agree with you Genelle. As I read your comment, I look back at my life when I only considered challenges to be associated with the devil but understanding God’s sovereignty, I can now see everything that culminates in my life is for my good.

      I’ll share a lil history….I remember I had a period in my life where finances were very limited and it seemed as though I could not land a stable job and I felt as though God abandoned me and it was the devil attacking me. Looking back, I recognized, in that period I learnt management and contentment that is now consistent in my life. So as you said….the key for me is to embrace the fact that God is sovereign and learn what He is teaching me in the process.

    • Avril Fox-Pooran

      Yes! And a good scripture to go with what Keston said is Jer 29:11. “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” (NLT). Check it out.

  • Ann Marie Stewart

    Chapter one has brought me back to the scripture fret not myself when things come my way knowing that my God is in control of every event that takes place in my life. Knowing that I can have a peace of mind and rest on His promises even through difficult situations also this will help me to truly see who I am in Christ whether I will stand or fall apart. This chapter has strengthen me internal and cause me to trust Him even if when I can’t see him.

    • Annastasia Marchan

      Ann Marie I love your stance! It reminds me of Genesis 21, when Hagar cried as she could not stand to see her son die and the Angel of the Lord turned up and said to her Do not be afraid, lift the boy up and she saw the well of water. It really shows us that when we lift our yes above our circumstances we see God and all the resources He is pouring into us.

  • Karina Pooran

    I do believe that God is in charge of these situations because He is sovereign over all things. I understand that He may allow difficult situations to occur in my life in order to develop/mature my spirit.
    As for my response, I have a tendency to worry and be anxious when hardship arises. I fret about the future and whether or not the outcome will be in my favour, especially if things are out of my control. I learned from experience that this achieves nothing, and currently I am shifting my mentality to a more accurate one; one where I look at the situation as an opportunity for growth as God intended, where I trust His will and where I pray for a favourable resolution with confidence and faith.

    • Kimba Smith

      Truly a good posture to adopt Karina! Indeed God will use every situation to bring us into accurate representation of Himself. I was also reminded that even as we shift or implement change, there is a process of warfare that will come. One of the ways we engage in warfare is through declaring the Word of God. Matthew 6:25-33 stands out in this situation. The book also speaks of different ways you can engage in warfare.

  • Candace Ettienne

    This book has given me perspective on how to why to and when to deal with difficult situations. It is relevant especially in the times we are living in. It has indeed given me clarity and nuggets that I can use daily. I thank you for your obedience.

  • Candace Ettienne

    This book has given me a perspective on how to deal with difficult situations it has given me a view on how to when to and why I should. Trusting the process in the face of calamity and learning through it. I thank God for Pastor Brown and his obedience to God’s leading. These are life lessons that can be applied everyday . Thank you.

  • Jemma Antoine

    This book was an inspiration to me, when I began reading I couldnt put it down and finished reading it on one sitting. These are true life lessons that can answer a lot of questions we have about situations in our lives. Get the book its worth the read.

  • Avril Fox-Pooran

    That is so true Anna! Our posture, in terms of how we interact during the difficult situation speaks volume to the process. Do we feel overwhelmed and fall flat and give up or do we stand firm and trust God knowing that He is sovereign and in control of everything. The former leads to worry while the latter leads to rest. As the book says, seeing God as sovereign in the midst of our difficult situations is key.

  • Avril Fox-Pooran

    Absolutely Annmarie! It deals with life holistically! The principles gleaned from this book can be applied into whatever aspect of a difficult situation you may encounter.

  • Avril Fox-Pooran

    Yes, Daniel! Like the book says our response in the midst of these situations is crucial to the outcome, and one way of dealing with it is speaking the Word of God into our situation. At another time, you may use a different method that was outlined and so on, therefore a key is discernment.

  • Avril Fox-Pooran

    Seona, what you are saying is that going through the difficult situation helped you to journey to a higher place in God and now you have a sight of God that you did not have before, and that is a great change! Reading the book has helped you to change your response to these situations as well and that means that you are advancing IN HIM.

    • Anonymous

      That’s exactly what I am saying. My difficult situation was dealing with anger. This book took me back to the scripture of the crippled man in John 5. The cripple man expected to be spoonfed. Just as I too was crippled by my anger, for me I needed more than second hand faith or blaming people around me for making me upset. Just as the crippled man I wasn’t doing anything for years and expected a break through. After 38 years of realizing that nobody owed him anything…His mentality changed and he began to desire breakthroughs. Being angry all the time I had no chance to grow and mature in God.

      • Avril Fox-Pooran

        Yes, there are many things that can cripple our movement and advance in God and anger is a major one. In the book we are reminded that in “becoming who God wants us to be often involves a process that is difficult for our flesh” yet it is very doable because God’s grace is sufficient to see us successfully through. Once we understand that: 1) a process is involved 2) there are things that God will do 3) there are things that we must do. We will mature and grow in God. God works in partnership with us (Amos 3:7).

  • Anna-Leigh Brown

    We must really be conscious of our posture in the midst of a difficult situation. In our human nature the issue maybbe overwhelming but the truth is God sees beauty in it and He’s looking at our response in the midst of it. I have been one to complain a lot and Holy Spirit has been adjusting me in that area where I can open my eyes to see that nothing happens by chance and God is sovereign. So my right response is resting in Him knowing that His intent is for me to see Him in new ways in every situation… Everyday.

  • Ann Marie Ramgattie

    The book gives a context of how we must view our difficult situations. It looks holistically at life and how God word applies to my context. The book gives strategies into how to deal with the difficulties of life; that i can implement.

  • Daniel Boynes

    One of the the main points the book deals with is the whole concept and issue of what is called a ‘Process ‘ and in understanding God has a particular process for me to go through their is a particular way I have to engage with God.One point is as was stated in the book is to say back to God what he said in his word when we are praying about a particular situation.This is something I’m currently learning to do.For us to move from one level to the next depends on how we respond in the midst of these situations.

  • Seona Silcott

    At first every time I had a difficult situation to deal with I would complain and get upset, not realizing the more I complained the longer I took to get out from the situation. After reading this book it has taken me from an area of my life (from broken ness to wholeness) I now understand that sometimes we need to suffer through somethings not only for ourselves but for the salvation and healing of others. We ask God to use us and when he does we get upset. I saw my difficult situations as unfair. But now its about helping other people realize what God has done for me he will do it for you. Believing in romans 8:28 that all things work together for good and understanding the nature of the problem, renewing my mind and learning to manage my emotions.

    • Lynn Blades

      After reading the comments, and if I am to believe that God is in the midst of these difficult situations I should not become overwhelmed because He is the one working it out. This does not mean that I sit passive and idle but I must rise up and declare the word of God over that particular situation and allow Him to speak, I listen, then do what He says, how he says to do it and when He says to do it. Even! if He does not speak I remain still and await with expectancy to see His salvation. After all, He is Sovereign and ultimately in charge.

      • Avril Fox-Pooran

        Absolutely! This also reminds me that there is an active engagement that we as the “Bride of Christ” must take part in. We must “make ourselves ready” and in doing so, there are certain things that we must always be aware of and questions we can ask. One of them would certainly be ” How does God expect me to engage with this particular situation at this point in time?” And this is one of the questions that this book answers.

      • Chris Naylor

        Selah, amen!